Pros and Cons Of An International Relationship With a Great Age Difference

  OneWife.com        January 20, 2022

Relationships in themselves are complicated and each relationship will have its own pros and cons. These are somewhat highlighted in an international relationship with a great age difference. There are some positive aspects and also some negative ones. Though the effect of each pro and con will have its own effect on the individual relationship.

The people in the relationship will always win through if they make the effort to understand what makes this kind of relationship so great. As well as how to manage the negative aspects so they don’t upset the balance in the relationship. The greater the age gap the more these differences will matter and it becomes more important to understand them.

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The Pros

Enough Money To Have Fun

The elder partner is more likely to be more financially stable as they have had more time. This can be an advantage for both halves of the relationship. The elder partner can enjoy experiences with someone truly interested and able to enjoy them. The younger partner benefits from being able to enjoy experiences that they may not have been able to afford alone.

A Mature Approach To International Relationship

With this extra life experience comes a calmer more methodical way of dealing with life’s issues. An older partner may be much more used to thinking of the little things that make a difference to both of your experiences. When problems come, this mature 

A Combined View

A significant age gap can bring the best of the old and the new together. With a joint view of the world, both can give the other the support they need, youth bringing the drive and energy. Age brings the maturity to make things happen.

The Cons

An age gap can be an advantage, but here are a few things that rock the boat.

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Instability And Finding Your Place

One of the biggest problems faced by large age gap international relationships is that the difference can manifest itself with the signs of instability. To be older means naturally your partner will look to you for advice and support. Maintaining a balance and not being seen as a teacher, but as equals can pose issues.

Long Term Chances

Over a longer time, the difference in views and perspectives that come from any significant age difference might lead to one partner compromising their behaviours or wishes in order to accommodate the other. This can over time lead to resentment and spoil the relationship. 

Family and Social Pressures

The influence of family relatives and friends can be hard to manage. A larger age gap in relationships opens the couple up to scrutiny by friends and family. This adds to the pressures faced and without understanding this and making sure the relationship is viewed by family in a positive way is very important.

Priorities In Life

Being of significantly different age and living in a different country can highlight different life priorities and goals over time. Though in the short term this does not stop you from having fun, in time these differences can bring the relationship to an end.

Over and above age or international location, the most important elements needed for a relationship to work well are love, understanding, and respect. Give these freely to your partner and everything else is far more likely to fall right into place.